The word ‘sex’ itself never fails to catch anyone’s attention. Just a while back, I used to feel ashamed of the fact that I want to explore sex. I used to skip every conversation related to the topic. Right now, I can feel that this is a very toxic way to deal with the topic of sex and intimacy. I got to meet this amazing guy a few months back and it has changed my world completely. We love each other quite a lot and I think that this relationship has helped me to mature up. So, let us talk about me and about sex in general.
Why is sex important?
Sex may still be a taboo word around the world, but I think that it is important to discuss sex. As I said, I was shy about uttering the word and to open about it. I do not feel small to tell you guys that, I often used to judge people based on their sexual choices. That is only a while back and I do feel bad about that time.
Right now, I am aware that sex is an important thing in every man’s life. Sex can be different for each person and they may have their own perceptions. There are some points for which I find sex to be a key part of being in a relationship and for maintaining it. So, here are some of the things for which I find sex to be important.
- There is a tonne of psychological benefits that I have felt after I have started to have sex. Before I got into this relationship, I felt ashamed about even thinking about sex. Now, I understand that it is quite normal for me to crave sex or to think about it. I was totally against the idea of having sex. After having sex, I feel that it is one of the best ways to have a clear mind and to be stress-free. I make sure that my boyfriend and I have regular sex. It improves my moods drastically and I feel like I have fewer mood swings right now, especially when I am PMSing (Know more about PMS here)
- Sex is important for me as I feel that it has let be freer about sex and intimacy. I know that I like to touch my boyfriend and to spend intimate times with him. Along with liberating me about the topic of sex, it has also helped me to know my body in a better way. These days, I am not ashamed of, masturbating and I feel confident about exploring my body and ways of having sex. I must give the credit to my boyfriend as he is the one who did the magic of introducing me to such a lovely thing. We will talk about our adventures soon.
- Sex is an important thing that ties our relationship. A thing that I have noticed is the fact that we tend to get irritated with each other when we have less sex. Whenever we are having an argument, intimacy always helps a lot. There are numerous times when we had make-up sex in weird ways. I may completely lose my mind about something that he did, but whenever we get intimate while fighting, I seem to forget about it. Sex helps us to realize the amount of love that we have for each other. I recently heard that sex releases ‘oxytocin’ which is a feel-good hormone for our body and the couples who have more sex are happier than those who do not have regular sex.
So, here are some of the points for which I think that sex is an important part of my life right now. I have started to talk about sex with my friends and I think it has helped all of us to be open about sex and intimacy. I think that sex education should be made a must for every person.
What is it like to have sneaky sex?
Now, let us get to the bit where I am supposed to talk about my experience of having sex. I would like to say that my boyfriend and I are attending the same college and this is where we met for the first time. We take an English class together and our professor told us about a debate competition that was going to happen.
So, for the first time, we interacted after both of us joined the team. You can guess from now, that we have had the typical college romance. I have to say that it is an ecstatic feeling to be with him. We share a good bond and I felt the connection the very first day, I went on the first day with him.
I must say, that both of us love having sex. We quickly started having sex in our relationship. I thought that sex would be a scary thing for me, but he changed my idea about it. We do not leave any opportunity to have sex. We have had a lot of till now and I must say that it has been a nice experience.
Recently, we had an event along with our teammates for which we had to stay at the venue for a night. We were thrilled about the new experience and excited about the event. It went great and had a little celebration at the end of it. At bedtime, we got to know that we were allotted a dorm where we must adjust with our teammate. We had, of course, anticipated this situation.
For some reason, we were having a tiff that day. I didn’t even expect that we will have sex under any circumstances. We were lying by each other and then he suddenly kissed me. I panned my eye throughout and found that everyone was sleeping. A dirty thought came to my mind.
I insisted to him that it was the perfect time to try out sneaky sex. I could see that he was very excited about the thing that I had mentioned. We knew that people were in deep sleep as it was striking midnight and we thought of doing it in the bathroom. The dorm had an attached bathroom, so we didn’t have to go far for the accomplishment of our adventure.
You can read a story about sneaky sex in this Glamour article.
Both of us knew that the plan could fail to play out at any moment and it may get embarrassing for us. Due to the heightened excitement, I pulled his hand and took him to the bathroom. I have to say that it was an amazing experience. Both of us were concerned about the situation and somehow it made us get super turned-on. We laughed out loud a million times, but it was one of the best sexes that we have had till now.
From that time, we have had sneaky sex several times during events. A few days ago, we tried sneaky sex when my roommate was home and it was a successful attempt.
Tips to have better sneaky sex:
I wouldn’t consider myself to be an expert in sneaky sex. I may have had it around 15 to 20 times. So, I am not the sex expert that can tell you about everything. Yet, through the experience that I have had till now, I can share some of the tips that will help you, people, to have better sneaky sex.
- The first that I would like to say is that you should be clear about your idea of sneaky sex. You may have the picture of Jack and Rose from Titanic in your mind when you are thinking about the sex. In most of the cases, sneaky sex is something that is quick but pleasurable. So, you are not going to have the picture-perfect undressing or the 1-hour long foreplay. Do think about it when you have sneaky sex on your mind.
- The thing that I often tell people is that sneaky sex can be planned. It is often more exciting for us when we know that people are going to be present and still, we have sneaky sex. It can be a fantasy that you may want to act out. A small tip that I would suggest is to always keep a pack of the condom on you.
- One of the main things about sneaky sex is that you want to be quiet unless you are into exhibitionism. So, if you are loud moaner, think about toning it down. A good way to do this is by kissing your partner often and by slighting placing your hand on their mouth.
- When you are thinking of having sneaky sex, do think about the places where you want to have it. The place can be a car, a bathroom, a bedroom or even the lawn. Talk about your comfort levels and pick the best choice that you seem to have.
- The last thing that I would like to talk about is communication. When you want to have sneaky sex, talk to your partner about it. I could have great sex because I got over my inhibitions. Be optimistic about the thing that you are going to do. Do not think much about the consequences or probabilities. Just go into it well and have great sex.
Through all the blabbering that I have done, you got to know a bit about me. These months with my boyfriend have taught me a lot. So, the next time you think of sex or for exploring in the fields of sex, do remember about the things that I have said. I hope that you and your partner have great sex in the upcoming days.